Spotting Relationship Red Flags

Many of the problems that end a relationship can be spotted early in the dating process, and the more you date, the more relationship red flags you’re bound to watch fly and possibly ignore in your pursuit of love. A healthy relationship takes time to build and no one is absolutely in love over night.

Many failed relationships occur because the person jumped in too fast and wanted too much too quickly. Ask the woman you are dating how many relationships she has had, why they ended and what she has to say about her own responsibility in them ending.

The best predictor of future behavior is a person’s past behavior. Learn about your woman’s criminal, mental and relationship history. Remember that many mental health conditions increase with age, time and stress. The types of men your woman has dated in the past can reveal the type of man she targets.

A history of emotionally unhealthy past relationships should be a red flag. Any sign of violence is a serious threat to both your relationship and safety. Violence includes verbal, physical and mental threats or abuse of any kind. Some men love women who are “victims” and appear to be weak while some combative women choose men with low self esteem. Either way will likely lead to an abusive dating relationship.

The problem with turning a blind eye to those red flags of a relationship in the making is that eventually they’ll come back to haunt you. You could end up hurt and resentful, even though you could have protected yourself.

–DFTM, Big Apple Models